During the mentoring meetings, it is your responsibility to ensure that your mentee’s concerns are addressed in depth within the given time constraints.
You may both find it useful if the mentee emails you an agenda a week prior to each meeting. That way, the mentee will automatically start reflecting on agenda items before you even meet up. However, bear in mind that your mentee’s need for inputs from you may change in the intervening time. Any sudden changes in the mentee’s work life could impact the original agenda.
Here is an outline structure for your mentoring conversations:
Opener
You might like to open the meeting by inquiring about events and thoughts since your last meeting and since the original agenda.
Agree on the topic
The mentee may need to change the original agenda. There may be several topics at issue, in which case, you could ask: Is this the main dilemma – should we discuss this one? What do you feel is most important for us to cover today?
You should also discuss how the two of you can address each topic. Obviously, this will depend on the context of the given topic. Does it call for a discursive approach, an analytical approach, a stream-of-consciousness approach with no constraints, scenario-mapping or something else altogether? Inquire as to what the mentee needs most in the given context.
Time-out
By ‘time-out’, we mean a brief meta-conversation about how the conversation is going. Take time out from the topic to renegotiate the what and how of the conversation. Is this discussion keeping your mentee on track? Invite your mentee to characterise the conversation in their own words before the two of you go any further by asking: Are you gaining anything from this discussion? Am I challenging you enough? Should we take a different tack?
Close-out
When you have about 10 minutes left, ask your mentee to sum up what you have discussed in terms of these four headings:
- Summary: Invite the mentee to sum up the discussion. What ground has been covered?
- Insights: What insights have been gained?
- Ideas: What ideas have emerged?
- Actions: What are the mentee’s next steps going forwards?